How to Keep Your Cool When Your New Dog Destroys Your House

When your new dog damages your home, stay calm. It’s not personal. Immediately interrupt, redirect to a toy, and safely clean up. Then, focus on understanding why it happened—often boredom, anxiety, or lack of training. Implement consistent exercise, mental stimulation, and positive reinforcement to prevent future incidents. Professional help might be needed for severe cases.

Bringing a new dog home is exciting! You imagine happy walks and cozy cuddles. But sometimes, reality hits hard. You walk in to find shredded cushions, chewed table legs, or an “accident” on the rug. It’s frustrating, disheartening, and can feel overwhelming. Many new dog owners face this challenge, and it’s completely normal to feel upset. The good news is, you’re not alone, and there are clear, practical steps you can take to manage these situations and prevent them from happening again. Let’s walk through how to keep your cool and turn these challenges into opportunities for growth with your new furry friend.

Keeping Your Cool When Chaos Strikes

Discovering your home in disarray due to your new dog’s antics can trigger a range of intense emotions: anger, frustration, sadness, and even regret. It’s a natural reaction. However, how you respond in that immediate moment is crucial for both your sanity and your dog’s future behavior. Yelling, punishing, or reacting emotionally can actually worsen the problem, making your dog fearful or anxious, which might lead to more destructive behaviors. The key is to remain calm, understand the underlying reasons for the destruction, and implement effective, positive strategies.

Understanding the “Why”: Why Dogs Destroy

Dogs don’t destroy your house out of spite or malice. Their destructive behaviors are almost always a symptom of an unmet need, a lack of understanding, or an underlying issue. Pinpointing the cause is the first step toward finding a solution.

Puppy Chewing/Teething

Just like human babies, puppies explore the world with their mouths. They also experience discomfort as their adult teeth emerge, typically between 3 and 6 months of age. Chewing helps relieve this pain and satisfies their natural urge to explore textures.

Sign: Primarily targets objects, not just furniture; often accompanied by puppy energy.
Solution: Provide appropriate chew toys, manage their environment.

Separation Anxiety

This is a common and often severe issue where dogs become distressed when left alone. Destructive chewing, barking, pacing, and house-soiling often occur around entry/exit points (doors, windows) or items that smell like their owner (clothes, furniture).

Sign: Behavior only occurs when you’re away; dog seems overly clingy or stressed before you leave.
Solution: Gradual desensitization, counter-conditioning, professional help.

Boredom/Lack of Exercise

Dogs, especially high-energy breeds, need physical and mental stimulation. Without enough outlets for their energy, they’ll find their own “jobs,” which often involve chewing, digging, or generally redecorating your home.

Sign: Destruction is widespread, not targeted; dog seems restless or overly energetic.
Solution: Increase exercise, provide puzzle toys, incorporate training sessions.

Fear/Stress

Loud noises (thunder, fireworks), new environments, or changes in routine can cause anxiety in dogs. Some dogs cope with stress by chewing, digging, or pacing destructively.

Sign: Behavior occurs during or after stressful events; dog shows other signs of fear (trembling, panting, hiding).
Solution: Create a safe space, desensitize to triggers, vet consultation for anxiety medication if severe.

Lack of Training/Boundaries

If a dog hasn’t been taught what is and isn’t appropriate to chew, or if they lack basic obedience, they might simply not know better. This is especially true for adolescent dogs testing boundaries.

Sign: Dog chews indiscriminately; ignores commands; generally lacks structure.
Solution: Consistent positive reinforcement training, clear rules.

Medical Issues (Less Common)

In rare cases, excessive chewing or destructive behavior can be linked to medical conditions like gastrointestinal issues, nutritional deficiencies (pica), or neurological problems. If other causes are ruled out, consult your vet.

Sign: Sudden onset of behavior; other physical symptoms.
Solution: Veterinary examination.

Immediate Steps: What to Do in the Moment

You’ve just walked in, and there it is: a disaster zone. Your first instinct might be to shout or react strongly. Resist this urge. Your dog won’t connect your anger to an act that happened hours ago. Instead, follow these steps:

1. Stay Calm (Crucial!)

Take a deep breath. Count to ten. Remember that your dog isn’t doing this to spite you. Reacting with anger or fear will only confuse or frighten your dog, potentially exacerbating the problem or damaging your bond. A calm demeanor helps you think clearly and prevents your dog from associating your return with negative emotions.

2. Interrupt, Don’t Punish

If you catch your dog in the act, a sharp, neutral sound like “Ah-ah!” or a clap can interrupt the behavior. The goal is to startle them momentarily, not to scare them. Avoid yelling, hitting, or rubbing their nose in the mess. Punishment after the fact is ineffective and harmful. If you didn’t catch them in the act, there’s nothing to do but move to the next step.

3. Redirect Behavior

Once you’ve interrupted, immediately redirect your dog to an appropriate chew toy. Praise them enthusiastically when they take the toy. This teaches them what they should chew on instead of what they shouldn’t.

Example: Your dog is gnawing on a chair leg. Say “Ah-ah!” Then, immediately offer a durable chew toy. When they take the toy, say “Good dog!” in a happy voice.

4. Assess the Damage (Safety First)

Before anything else, check if your dog ingested anything harmful. Small pieces of furniture, fabric, or other household items can cause blockages or be toxic. If you suspect they’ve eaten something dangerous, contact your veterinarian immediately.

5. Clean Up Safely

Once your dog is safely redirected or confined to a secure area, clean up the mess. Use enzymatic cleaners for accidents to eliminate odors that might attract your dog back to the same spot. Secure damaged items or remove them entirely to prevent recurrence.

Long-Term Strategies: Preventing Future Destruction

Immediate responses are just the beginning. True prevention comes from understanding and addressing the root causes of destructive behavior. This requires consistency, patience, and a multi-faceted approach.

Management is Key: Prevention is Better Than Cure

The easiest way to stop destructive behavior is to prevent your dog from having the opportunity to engage in it in the first place.

Dog-Proofing Your Home

Think like a curious canine. Get down on their level and look for tempting targets. Remove or secure anything valuable, dangerous, or easily destroyed. This includes:

Electrical cords (use cord protectors or secure them out of reach).
Shoes, remote controls, books, eyeglasses.
Houseplants (many are toxic to dogs).
Wastebaskets (use dog-proof bins).
Small rugs or mats that can be shredded.
Furniture legs (consider bitter apple spray as a deterrent, but combine with positive training).

For more detailed tips on dog-proofing, resources like the ASPCA’s dog-proofing guide can be very helpful.

Crate Training (Positive Association)

A crate, when introduced positively, can become a safe, den-like space for your dog. It’s an invaluable tool for house-training and preventing destruction when you can’t directly supervise your dog.

Introduce gradually: Make the crate a positive place with treats, toys, and comfortable bedding.
Never use as punishment: The crate should be a safe haven, not a time-out spot.
Appropriate size: Large enough for your dog to stand up, turn around, and lie down comfortably.
Time limits: Don’t leave a dog in a crate for too long, especially puppies.

Secure Zones/Baby Gates

If a crate isn’t an option or if your dog needs more space, use baby gates to confine them to a dog-proofed room (like a kitchen or laundry room) when you’re away or busy. Ensure this area contains their bed, water, and appropriate toys.

Meeting Their Needs: The Foundation of Good Behavior

Many destructive behaviors stem from unmet physical and mental needs. Addressing these is paramount.

Exercise (Physical & Mental)

A tired dog is a good dog. Ensure your dog gets adequate exercise tailored to their breed, age, and energy level. This isn’t just about walks; it can include:

Daily walks: At least 30-60 minutes, often more for high-energy breeds. Vary routes to keep it interesting.
Running/Hiking: If appropriate for your dog’s age and health.
Fetch/Playtime: Active games in the yard or at a park.
Dog parks: Socialization and energy burning (ensure your dog is socialized and vaccinated).

Mental Stimulation (Puzzle Toys, Training)

Physical exercise isn’t enough; dogs need to use their brains too. Mental stimulation can be just as tiring as physical activity.

Puzzle toys: KONGs stuffed with treats, treat-dispensing balls, snuffle mats. These make them work for their food and keep them engaged.
Training sessions: Short, frequent training sessions (5-10 minutes) teaching new commands or practicing old ones can be mentally stimulating.
Nose work/Scent games: Hide treats around the house and encourage your dog to find them.
Chew toys: Provide a variety of appropriate, durable chew toys to satisfy their natural chewing instincts. Rotate them to keep them interesting.

Consistent Training & Boundaries

A well-trained dog is less likely to engage in destructive behaviors because they understand what’s expected of them. Establish clear rules and enforce them consistently using positive reinforcement.

“Leave It” command: Essential for teaching your dog to ignore tempting forbidden items.
“Place” or “Mat” training: Teaches your dog to go to a designated spot and stay there, useful for managing their presence during specific times.
Chew toy training: Whenever your dog mouths something inappropriate, redirect them to an approved chew toy and praise them.

Consider enrolling in a local obedience class. This provides structured training, socialization, and strengthens your bond with your dog. The American Kennel Club (AKC) offers great resources on positive training methods.

Enrichment Activities

Enrichment is about providing activities that allow dogs to express their natural behaviors in appropriate ways. This can include:

Food puzzles: Instead of a bowl, use puzzle feeders.
Chewing: Offer a variety of safe, durable chews.
Digging box: If your dog loves to dig, provide a designated sandbox or area in the yard.
Socialization: Safe interactions with other dogs and people.

Addressing Underlying Issues

If boredom or lack of training aren’t the primary causes, you’ll need to dig deeper.

Separation Anxiety Protocol

This is complex and often requires a professional. It involves gradually increasing the time your dog is left alone, starting with seconds, and building up very slowly. Counter-conditioning (associating your departure with something positive, like a special long-lasting treat) is also key. Never make a big fuss when leaving or returning.

Fear/Stress Reduction

Identify the stressors. If it’s noise, create a safe, sound-proofed den. If it’s a new environment, provide familiar comforts and build positive associations. In some cases, a vet might prescribe anti-anxiety medication to help your dog cope while you work on behavior modification.

Professional Help (Trainer, Vet, Behaviorist)

If you’ve tried everything and the destructive behavior persists, or if it’s severe (e.g., self-harm, aggression, extreme panic), it’s time to seek professional help. A certified professional dog trainer or a veterinary behaviorist can provide tailored strategies and identify underlying medical conditions.

Practical Tools and Resources

Having the right tools can make a significant difference in managing and preventing destructive behaviors.

Durable Chew Toys: KONGs, Nylabones, Benebones, natural chews like bully sticks or antlers (always supervise and ensure appropriate size).
Puzzle Feeders: Slow down eating and provide mental stimulation.
Pet Cameras: Monitor your dog’s behavior when you’re away. Many allow two-way audio, so you can speak to your dog or dispense treats.
Enzymatic Cleaners: Essential for removing pet odors from accidents, preventing re-soiling.
Bitter Sprays: Can deter chewing on specific items, but use as a temporary aid alongside positive training.
Baby Gates/Exercise Pens: For confining your dog to safe, dog-proofed areas.

Case Studies/Scenarios

Let’s look at how these principles apply in real-life situations:

The Chewed Sofa

Scenario: You come home to find a corner of your new sofa shredded. Your dog, a 1-year-old Labrador mix, greets you excitedly.
Analysis: A 1-year-old Lab mix has high energy needs. This sounds like boredom and/or lack of appropriate outlets.
Solution:

Stay calm. Interrupt if in the act, redirect to a durable chew toy.
Increase daily exercise (longer walks, fetch sessions).
Provide more mental stimulation (stuffed KONGs before leaving, puzzle toys).
Dog-proof the sofa area or use a baby gate to limit access when unsupervised.
Consider professional training for impulse control and “Leave It” command.

The Shredded Papers

Scenario: Your dog, a 6-month-old puppy, has pulled important documents off the coffee table and shredded them into confetti.
Analysis: Classic puppy behavior – exploring with mouth, teething, and lack of clear boundaries.
Solution:

Calmly take the papers away, offer an appropriate chew toy.
Thoroughly puppy-proof your home, especially low-lying surfaces. Put everything valuable out of reach.
Ensure the puppy has a variety of safe chew toys and that you’re rotating them to keep interest.
Increase supervised playtime and short training sessions.
Use a crate or playpen when you can’t supervise directly.

The Digging Disaster

Scenario: You let your new terrier mix out into the yard, and when you check on him later, he’s dug a massive hole under your prize-winning rose bush.
Analysis: Terriers are bred to dig. This is a natural instinct, likely due to boredom or lack of an appropriate digging outlet.
Solution:

Interrupt with a neutral sound, redirect to a different activity (e.g., fetch).
Consider creating a designated “digging pit” in the yard (a sandbox filled with dirt) and burying toys for him to find there. Praise him for digging in the right spot.
Increase physical and mental exercise to tire him out before yard time.
Supervise closely in the yard, especially initially.

Common Destructive Behaviors & Their Causes

This table summarizes common destructive behaviors and their likely underlying causes.

Behavior	Common Causes	Key Indicators
Chewing Furniture/Walls	Puppy Teething, Boredom, Separation Anxiety, Lack of Appropriate Chews, Stress	Age (puppy), occurs when alone, targets specific items, general restlessness
Shredding Fabric/Paper	Boredom, Play, Attention-Seeking, Separation Anxiety	Dog seems under-stimulated, behavior stops when you’re present, occurs when alone
Digging (Indoors)	Boredom, Anxiety, Instinct (terriers), Seeking Comfort/Coolness	Targets carpets/bedding, occurs when alone, breed predisposition
House Soiling (New Dog)	Incomplete Potty Training, Separation Anxiety, Medical Issue, Marking	No consistent schedule, occurs when alone (anxiety), frequent small urinations, vet check needed if sudden
Escaping/Breaking Out	Separation Anxiety, Boredom, High Energy, Fear (e.g., thunderstorms)	Damage around exit points, dog seems frantic when left, attempts to escape when crated

Prevention Strategies & Tools

This table outlines effective prevention strategies and the tools that can help.

Strategy	Description	Useful Tools
Environmental Management	Removing temptations and securing your home to prevent access to destructive items.	Baby gates, crates, exercise pens, secure trash cans, cord protectors, pet-safe cleaners.
Adequate Exercise	Ensuring your dog gets enough physical activity to burn off excess energy.	Leash, harness, comfortable walking shoes, ball launchers, access to safe outdoor spaces.
Mental Stimulation	Engaging your dog’s mind to prevent boredom and provide an outlet for natural behaviors.	KONGs, puzzle feeders, snuffle mats, durable chew toys (Nylabone, Benebone), treat-dispensing toys.
Consistent Training	Teaching appropriate behaviors and boundaries through positive reinforcement.	Treats, clicker, training classes, long line for “come” practice, chew toy variety.
Addressing Anxiety	Implementing protocols to help dogs cope with separation anxiety or fear.	Pet camera, calming pheromone diffusers, thunder shirts, vet-prescribed medication, professional behaviorist.
Enrichment	Providing opportunities for natural dog behaviors like chewing, sniffing, and foraging.	Chew toys, snuffle mats, digging pits, interactive toys, regular walks with sniffing opportunities.

When to Seek Professional Help

While many destructive behaviors can be managed with patience and consistent effort, some situations warrant professional intervention. Don’t hesitate to reach out if:

Behavior is Persistent and Severe: Despite your best efforts, the destruction continues or worsens, causing significant damage or safety concerns.
Signs of Extreme Anxiety: Your dog exhibits severe panic, self-mutilation (licking/chewing paws raw), excessive drooling, or frantic attempts to escape when left alone. These are hallmarks of severe separation anxiety.
Aggression or Fear: The destructive behavior is accompanied by aggression, extreme fear, or other concerning behavioral changes that you feel ill-equipped to handle.
Suspected Medical Issues: If the destructive behavior started suddenly, or if your dog shows other symptoms of illness (lethargy, changes in appetite, vomiting, diarrhea), consult your veterinarian first to rule out any underlying health problems.

A certified professional dog trainer (CPDT-KA or KPA-CTP credentials) can help with general obedience and behavioral issues. For complex cases like severe separation anxiety or aggression, a veterinary behaviorist (DACVB) or a certified applied animal behaviorist (CAAB) is recommended. These professionals have advanced training and can often combine behavior modification with medication if necessary.

Frequently Asked Questions (FAQ)

Q1: Is it normal for a new dog to destroy things?

A1: Yes, it’s very common! New dogs, especially puppies or those adjusting to a new home, often chew or destroy items. This can be due to teething, boredom, anxiety, lack of training, or simply exploring their new environment. It’s a normal part of their adjustment, but it needs to be managed and addressed.

Q2: Should I punish my dog if I find something destroyed?

A2: No, never punish your dog after the fact. Dogs live in the moment. If you didn’t catch them in the act, they won’t understand why you’re angry. Punishment after the fact can lead to fear, anxiety, and a breakdown in trust, potentially making the problem worse. Focus on prevention and positive redirection.

Q3: How much exercise does my new dog really need to prevent destruction?

A3: The amount varies greatly by breed, age, and individual dog. High-energy breeds like Labs, Border Collies, or terriers might need 1-2 hours of vigorous exercise daily, plus mental stimulation. Even lower-energy dogs need at least 30-60 minutes of walks and playtime. A tired dog is less likely to be destructive, so observe your dog’s energy levels and adjust accordingly.

Q4: What are the best toys to prevent chewing on furniture?

A4: Provide a variety of durable, appropriate chew toys. KONGs (especially when stuffed with treats and frozen), Nylabones, Benebones, and other hard rubber or nylon chew toys are excellent. Rotate toys to keep your dog interested. Avoid toys that can be easily torn apart or swallowed, as these pose a choking hazard.

Q5: My dog only destroys things when I leave. Is this separation anxiety?

A5: It could be. Destructive behavior that occurs exclusively or primarily when you’re absent, especially around exit points (doors, windows) or on items that smell like you, is a strong indicator of separation anxiety. Other signs include excessive barking, howling, pacing, or house-soiling when alone. This often requires a specialized approach, potentially with the help of a professional trainer or veterinary behaviorist.

Q6: Can crate training help with destructive behavior?

A6: Absolutely! When introduced positively, a crate can become a safe, den-like space for your dog. It’s an excellent tool for preventing destructive chewing when you can’t supervise your dog directly. It also aids in house-training by discouraging accidents. Ensure the crate is the right size and never used as punishment.

Q7: How long does it take for a new dog to stop destroying things?

A7: There’s no fixed timeline, as it depends on the dog’s age, personality, history, and the consistency of your training. For puppies, teething usually subsides by 6-7 months. For behavioral issues like boredom or mild anxiety, you might see significant improvement within weeks with consistent effort. Severe issues like separation anxiety can take months of dedicated work, sometimes with professional help. Patience and consistency are key.